Explicit communication... the great challenge of all relationships. I remember, as a young adult, realising I no longer wanted to be friends with someone I found unkind. But instead of telling her, I just slowly disappeared from her life. Looking back, I wish I had handled it differently.
As an adult, I’ve done the opposite a couple of time — in one ocasion closeness was lost because I was too explicit/honest. Finding that balance seems tricky.
And your point about love not being mind reading? If we fully embraced that idea, it could save so much anguish and disappointment in every kind of relationship. Loved this post, Sarah!
Oooh great points Dom thank you so much, I especially like that reflection about balance, I'll make a note of your comment in case I do follow up this theme!
…how good it would feel to actually have a job that one loves :)…it might be as hard as creating the real thing with a stranger…or at least as much work…
Haha yes, ok perhaps an unrealistic ask to lump love and work in the same sentence for some... though this comment has just made me realise another thing I believe in, that you *can* love most jobs through either job crafting or changing your own motivations, so I will make a note in my essay idea mind map in my journal for another day, thank you CansaFis 🥰
Wonderful ideas there Sarah. I agree with Dom, particularly with the last paragraph. If we all could just write a few things, (and I am all for it being a tiny manifesto!!) to each other, imagine the reduction in harm and the anxiety reduction and well, I suppose just so you know and it's there in black and white if you ever are lonely, If I can keep this in my brain!, I think I will make one and send it to those whom are important to me in my life. This deserves to be and should be a new trend! I hope so Sarah! Very well communicated and written Sarah. Love you. Xxx
Explicit communication... the great challenge of all relationships. I remember, as a young adult, realising I no longer wanted to be friends with someone I found unkind. But instead of telling her, I just slowly disappeared from her life. Looking back, I wish I had handled it differently.
As an adult, I’ve done the opposite a couple of time — in one ocasion closeness was lost because I was too explicit/honest. Finding that balance seems tricky.
And your point about love not being mind reading? If we fully embraced that idea, it could save so much anguish and disappointment in every kind of relationship. Loved this post, Sarah!
Oooh great points Dom thank you so much, I especially like that reflection about balance, I'll make a note of your comment in case I do follow up this theme!
…how good it would feel to actually have a job that one loves :)…it might be as hard as creating the real thing with a stranger…or at least as much work…
Haha yes, ok perhaps an unrealistic ask to lump love and work in the same sentence for some... though this comment has just made me realise another thing I believe in, that you *can* love most jobs through either job crafting or changing your own motivations, so I will make a note in my essay idea mind map in my journal for another day, thank you CansaFis 🥰
Wonderful ideas there Sarah. I agree with Dom, particularly with the last paragraph. If we all could just write a few things, (and I am all for it being a tiny manifesto!!) to each other, imagine the reduction in harm and the anxiety reduction and well, I suppose just so you know and it's there in black and white if you ever are lonely, If I can keep this in my brain!, I think I will make one and send it to those whom are important to me in my life. This deserves to be and should be a new trend! I hope so Sarah! Very well communicated and written Sarah. Love you. Xxx
Glad it resonated David, thank you for your kind words 🥰